Parisians have long had a reputation for being a little rude, but honestly? That hasn’t been my experience at all. On the contrary, I find that most Parisians are polite and welcoming—as long as you are polite to them. In other words, the key to a smooth and pleasant stay in Paris isn’t just about knowing where to go, but also understanding how to interact with people. Treat people with courtesy, avoid looking at your phone when walking around, and, most importantly, always greet the Parisians with a warm “Bonjour, Madame” or “Bonjour, Monsieur”.
Paris has its own social codes, and understanding them will make your time here much more enjoyable. Here are a few do’s and don’ts to help you blend better in with the locals.
Do:
1. Greet with “Bonjour” (and always say “Merci”)
The number one rule in Paris: Always start interactions with “Bonjour” (hello). Walking into a shop, approaching a counter, or asking for help without greeting the person first is considered rude. Likewise, ending an interaction with a “Merci, au revoir” (thank you, goodbye) is just as important. You may also add “Bonne journée” or “Bonne Soirée” when you leave a shop, for example.
2. Learn Basic French Phrases
While many Parisians speak English, making an effort with a few key phrases—“Excusez-moi” (excuse me), “S’il vous plaît” (please), “Parlez-vous anglais?” (Do you speak English?)—goes a long way. Even if you stumble, your attempt will be appreciated.
3. Respect Meal Times and Restaurant Norms
Parisian meal culture follows a strict rhythm:
- Lunch is typically from 12:00 to 14:00 (though some places serve until 15:00).
- Dinner service begins around 19:30 and peaks between 20:00 and 21:30.
If you want to grab just a coffee at a café, do so before 11:45 AM. After that, tables are reserved for diners, and lingering over just a drink will get you disapproving looks—or even a request to leave.
At restaurants, sitting for hours with a single coffee after a meal is not common. If you want to linger, head to a dedicated café or brasserie where it’s acceptable to sit with a drink for an extended period.
Don’t:
1. Talk Loudly or Take Calls at Restaurants
One of the quickest ways to stand out as a tourist? Speaking loudly in public, especially in restaurants. Parisian dining culture values conversation, but in a measured, discreet tone. Taking phone calls at the table is not ok—step outside if you must. Likewise, watching videos on speaker or video calling in public spaces will earn you some unimpressed glances. Let’s keep it like that.
2. Use Your Laptop at Restaurants and Cafés
Unlike in some cities, most Parisian cafés and restaurants are not designed as remote workspaces. While some newer, more casual coffee shops might allow laptops, in traditional cafés, terraces and brasseries, pulling out your MacBook will likely get you a raised eyebrow—or even a request to close it. If you need to work, look for coworking cafés, libraries, or coffee shops that explicitly allow laptops.
Read more about Parisian Terrace culture in my recent post.
3. Handle Market Produce Yourself
At open-air food markets, never grab fruit or vegetables yourself. Vendors take pride in selecting the best produce for you, based on what you want. Instead, indicate how many or how ripe you prefer, and they will do the rest.
By keeping these cultural norms in mind, you’ll not only avoid awkward moments, but you’ll also experience Paris in a more authentic and enjoyable way. Respect the rhythm of the city, and it will embrace you right back.